I am ok, I am like this only, I love it

04.27.2010 · Posted in All, HR

There are many times when we feel depressed and we go down. That is perfectly ok with going down but it is not right to feel that there is something wrong in going down. Some facts
- We are human (so its ok to behave like human)
- We are different (so its ok to be different, I am be ugly than others, I may be better than him in Cricket)
- Every day is different (hey, I am not robot, I was happy yesterday, I am sad today, sooooo, its ok I am a human, not robot)
- I am not all that good (hey, I want to be good but at times I do bad which depresses me, hey again, it happens, try and say a sorry and correct it instead of excuses)
- I have given the root access to myself and my God not to others (Don’t try to give access to others who will kill your operating system, technical stuff also teaches you good lessons too, learn from all, give time and take things sparingly from all the advices that are thrown on us …) … example: I learned car driving in 12 years , I started in 1997 and now I drive to some part of the city not to all, I had my own problems … people make fun of me, hell with you, I know why I am taking time … I smile at them, I don’t get depressed, I am good at SEO afterall
- Natural things are always preferred (hee hee, this is where we fail terribly, my boss wants me to know everything, my wife wants to be smart, hell I am what I am, I need to change, give me change, offer me hands, I will learn and I will change but everything will take time, I will like to stay natural)

Then again, give yourself time, don’t force to correct things too urgently. When we started the business, we used to take too much tensions, now we work and try to solve as much problems as possible but still problem remains, we don’t care, let it remain, let some clients leave, let us not get pay for few months, lets strive for few days … we will do things possible (some tough one) but we will not regret and fight for the past .. If I can take 12 years to learn driving, you can take atleast 5 years to correct some of your problems, what say you all

One of my favorite song in Church (I sing and I forget about myself, it refreshes me whenever I sing it), see the lines come, just as you are ….. even if I am a sinner, I shall come as I am … God loves it when we are natural so does life ..

Come, now is the time to worship.
Come, now is the time to give your heart.
Come, just as you are, to worship.
Come, just as you are, before your God.
Come.

Ending with another song, again a good one

Gonna stay in bed today
‘Cuz I can’t stand the light
Don’t know why I get so down

I won’t be much fun tonight
And I can’t believe
You still want to hang around me

It’s not so pretty all the time
You don’t mind
To you it’s alright

As I am is how you take me
Never try to push or make me different
When I talk you listen to me

As I am is how you want me and
I know I’ve found the pieces missing
I’m looking at him

I’m not the girl you think you see
But maybe that’s a lie
You almost know me better than
Me, myself and I

Don’t know a lot of things
But I know what I got
It’s not so perfect everyday
I don’t have to try
‘Cuz it all falls into place

As I am is how you take me
Never try to push or make me different
When I talk you listen to me

As I am is how you want me and
I know I’ve found the pieces missing
I’m looking at him

Face to face, eye to eye
You’re standing there
Feels good on the inside

I don’t mind, I don’t care
You’re standing there
Seein’ me for the first time

Seein’ me for the first time
Seein’ me for the first time

As I am is how you take me
Never try to push or make me different
When I talk you listen to me

As I am is how you want me and
I know I’ve found the pieces missing
I’m looking at him

Found the pieces missing
Take me as I am
When I talk you listen
Take me as I am

Found the pieces missing
Take me as I am

I almost ended it when I decided to put this also up, the famous 90/10 principle

Have you read this before? Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations). What is this principle?

10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean?

We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.

How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light., but you can control your reaction. Don’t let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.

Let’s use an example. You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react.You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.

She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work.

You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.

Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is ” D”.

You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened.

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, “It’s ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time”. Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.

Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Bothended different.

Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about you, don’t be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don’t have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off)

Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive? Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job. The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it.

The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.

The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.

It CAN change your life!!!